TO THE MEAN GIRLS:
Emphasis on Girl due to very childlike tendencies to not play nice. When I started writing this in November I had titled it "Mean Girls" because of a work situation with a female employee who's mission it was to make me look like a little girl in front of my managers as often as possible. I never posted it because I have always told myself that I would not use my blog as a bullying platform. I will, however, touch on the Mean Girl subject for a second. My mother has always said that you can't teach people manners but I now know that I can teach people how to treat me. I will never understand why people in a position to enlighten a young girl would default to the Mean Girl. I am happy to have met this type of women many times in my life. It is because of them that I wake up everyday and tell myself that I don't want to be the most miserable person someone meets today. Looking back to when I was a 20 year old young lady, I realize that guidance is all I needed in a professional environment. There were tear filled phone calls made to my mom from work bathrooms on a daily basis at one point. My mom would tell me how special I was and that I could quit but not until they knew that I would be missed. I thought she was crazy! I now know exactly what she was teaching me. From that point on I would never dismiss myself from a situation and leave my dignity behind. When I leave, it's because I am ready to go and not because I have been "forced" out. Moving along!
TO THE HEPBURN~BEYOND PROFESSIONAL WOMEN:
I am happy to report that I meet this type of woman more often than the mean girl. I love singing the praises of women like this! Accomplished, elegant, poised in short the perfect combination of Audrey and Katherine. These women are happy to mentor and teach me the errors of their ways to make my professional life a little easier. Isn't that what trial and error is for? Otherwise mistakes made are just in vain. This is not to say that they do nothing but give you warm fuzzies à la Mary Poppins with a spoon full of sugar. These women aren't faint of heart and play with the big boys. They have not only told me when I am doing something wrong, they immediately show me how to do it right. They've showed me the ropes and don't fear that "this girl will take my job" because they know the only thing I want is the confidence that they embody. There are very few things in life that I find magical but when I meet women like this... I feel like I'm meeting a unicorn!
TO THE GOOD FRIEND:
Life has taught me that if you think you are a bad friend then you probably are, sorry! But if your friends are even better friends than you are, (and luckily my, friends are) it is never too late to recover. I can count my serious-to-die-for-girlfriends on one hand, nope wait I need two! Starting with my cousin that I met when we were only a couples of weeks old to my best friend that I met in high school after stalking her in our high school gym locker room. There are so many times that I annoy myself but they are so accepting of the person that I am and the grown up I sometimes refuse to be. They make me love them even more just letting me be. At one point in our lives we were the same kind of girl and today we live polar opposite lives and the only thing that keeps us close is the simple fact that there are beautiful stories that we have penned together in the pages of our lives. That alone is enough to keep our bonds strong. As an adult, it's difficult to embrace the unfamiliar because you're afraid to get burnt. Luckily the new friends I have gained at my age are blessings as well.
TO THE MAMAS:
I can write a novel about these epic creatures but I won't (at least not today). Mothers amaze me because it's something I have not done, as of yet, but to watch you ladies is so fascinating. Including my own mother of course. Mothers of daughters that remind their girls to be the best version of themselves to be strong but not offensive, and to say no and mean it and most importantly, self love. Mamas, never stop talking your little girls ears off with your words of wisdom. When you aren't around it's the only voice she'll hear.
Finally, I just really want to say "thank you" to the women that I have been blessed to cross paths with and even the women that have crossed me. All life experiences are lessons learned and the people we meet and keep are our teachers. I pray that I have been of service to my girls. I have so much to learn and am eager to share so keep in touch! XO~Amy Licerio